Evangelism - A Right Way and a Wrong Way?

Should we say, "perhaps you should try Jesus as you savior" ...almost with a consumer market oriented mentality"?. "There are lots of religious options and if you try this particular religious option you might like it." ... No... rather, Jesus is Lord and He will soon be invading with His armies. He is offering pardon in advance of His invasion and should you receive the pardon and ally yourself with Him now before He invades, when He comes you will be considered His ally and He will raise you to Kingship. The alternative is to be under the wrath of the king. It is not some kind of religious option. It an announcement that a new king is on the throne and he'll be invading. The gospel is not an invitation to an array of a buffet style choices, it is a command. Will you heed the command? Jesus is Lord, repent and believe.

The above quote by William Wilder is a challenge. I have busied myself in the past several years wrestling with the right way to evangelize. (Do I strive to build relationships first without mentioning spiritual things until that relationship is ready for it? What if I'm no good at relationship building - primarily because I'm not fond of small talk and getting to know people? I'd rather get to the point... Or do I just boldly demand an anser to the 2 EE questions without even asking a person's name?) Obviosuly, there are extremes and everywhere-in-betweens... My wrestling has come at the expense of actually evangelizing! Wow! How silly!

I've tried in recent months to "practice evangelism" both by relationship building and boldly jumping right into spiritual matters. Both seem to be going well. What a shock! When you "just do it," instead of bitting your fingernails wondering which method is best, God works. The following verses share no contradictions:

1 Peter 3:15 - "Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect."

1 Thessalonians 4:11-12 - "Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life, to mind your own business and to work with your hands, just as we told you, so that your daily life may win the respect of outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody."

Acts 4:20 - "We cannot help speaking about what we have seen and heard."

Acts 4:29-31 - "'Now, Lord...enable Your servants to speak Your word with great boldness. Stretch out Your hand to heal and perform miraculous signs and wonders through the name of Your holy servant Jesus.' After they prayed, the place where they were meeting was shaken. And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit and spoke the word of God boldly."

Acts 13:46 - "Then Paul and Barnabas answered them boldly: 'We had to speak the word of God to you first.'"

Acts 28:31 - "Boldly and without hindrance he preached the kingdom of God and taught about the Lord Jesus Christ."

2 Corinthians 3:11 - "Therefore, since we have such a hope, we are very bold."